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Couples who make fun of each other on a regular basis have better relationships, study says





We have often heard it being said that you should not take yourself too seriously or that a good laugh will certainly make you feel better. Well, in the same vein, new research shows that if you are able to infuse both these practices into your relationship, you will be much happier. In simple terms what this means is that if you and your partner can poke fun at each other on a regular basis without either of you being offended, your relationship is going to be that much stronger.
Those who are in long term relationships are fully aware that a lot more goes into keeping the relationship healthy than just the physical attraction. It takes understanding, communication and fair doses of humor to keep the relationship going.
Cracking the occasional joke or sharing a funny anecdote is always a great stress buster, but what if the joke was directed at you or your partner, would either of you be able to laugh the same way? If your partner’s sarcastic jibes at you can actually make you laugh without you being offended then science says that your relationship is definitely on the right track.
Jeffrey Hall, a researcher at the University of Kansas, conducted 39 studies involving various factors that affect relationships, on 15,000 people over a period of 30 years. After three decades of analyzing the finer nuances of relationships, Hall came to the conclusion that having a sense of humor was just not enough for a relationship to work. One needed to find a partner that matches the sense of humor, someone who laughs at the same things that you do.
What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction is the humor that couples create together.” Says Hall.
He further states that if you and your partner can laugh at the same things and enjoy the same funny shows together, it reaffirms your relationship. If the two of you can laugh at each other’s idiosyncrasies without either getting offended then so much the better.
Hall says, “Playfulness between romantic partners is a crucial component in bonding and establishing relational security.”
However, the important point here is to know where to draw the line. When Hall says that it’s important for couples to be able to poke fun at one another it does not mean that it is an excuse to go overboard with the jokes or to be mean about it. If you know that your partner is sensitive about something, it would not be right to joke about it because that would mean you don’t care enough. However, if you can good-humoredly convince your partner that it’s not as serious as they think it is, and then joke about it at some point, it will definitely go a long way in cementing the ties that bind you.
Psychology today states “Insults can be spoken in two primary manners: seriously and in jest. In the former case, harm is intended. Despite our best intentions, ill-phrased or poorly timed jokes can do harm in much the same way that a serious insult can.”
So the key to sharing in the laughter with your partner is about not demeaning or bringing up things that could be painful. Instead, it’s about creating that special space that is just yours.



Couples who make fun of each other on a regular basis have better relationships, study says Couples who make fun of each other on a regular basis have better relationships, study says Reviewed by Tyler on March 05, 2019 Rating: 5

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