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If Your Ex Wants To Stay Friends With You, They’re Probably A Psychopath, Science Says




Many times during a break up the partner who initiates the end of the relationship often ends it by saying ‘we can still be friends.’ A phrase that has been used so many times it tends to lose its real meaning. Breaking up is never easy and when a partner uses this line to end it, the probable reason is that they’re trying to make it easier on the other. Trying to lessen the blow, so to speak.
One may have wondered as to how partners who have broken up and moved on still want to be friends. Psychologists too have pondered on this need to remain friends and have come up with some pretty astonishing results. Research that was carried out revealed that a partner who would still like to stay friends with their ex did not have positive personality traits but were either narcissistic or psychopathic.
The reason for this conclusion was that these people did not really care about their ex but still needed to be able to control and manipulate them. That’s the reason why they still hoped to stay close even after the relationship had ended. By still being in touch with the intimate details of your life they could use it to wield their control over you.
Everyone is quite aware that a narcissist is a sore loser so if a relationship has ended, they cannot let go of it because it will be a reflection on them. When their ex is still a part of their social circle, they will be able to hold onto their social standing.
Another thing narcissists and psychopaths hate is the idea of their ex moving on. If they aren’t able to control your life, it will bother them no end. As such they will go out of their way to be nice so that you stay in touch.
This research offers some interesting insights into human relationships. Being able to maintain a relationship after a fall out is not easy because there may be ulterior motives involved. Once the relationship is over, there is a slim chance of an ex being genuinely concerned about the partner they split from.
However, one cannot use this as a yardstick to judge all exes. There are many genuine people who have probably outgrown one aspect of the relationship but can still be good friends. What one needs to understand is that if a friendship doesn’t feel right or genuine, then your warning bells should go off.



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  1. There is a large element of bullshit here. I've been in relationships with more than a few females and even though we haven't spoken or even seen each other in many years we are still cordial when we pass on the street or see each other at a social event. We are "still friends", but not close friends. There is no need to spew hate or vitriol toward each other because we just didn't "click" like one or both of us thought we should. Why not continue on out separate ways and wish each other a happily ever after? Heck, I even maintain friendship with guys who were "next" after me. If it wasn't meant to be there is no sense in pushing to force it to work, if it ain't meant to be it ain't meant to be. It's better that she was gone sooner rather than later, it gives me more time to enjoy the next chapter in my life. I've never been through a bitter separation, I always accepted it as the end of one chapter and the beginning of another. I'm not the kind of guy who always had females chasing after me, I was always trying hard to find a partner, but when I found one I accepted her knowing that if I found her to be attractive someone else would too. It was up to her to make the decision. I've seen the results of a few of the decisions my past girlfriends have made and I feel thankful that I wasn't burdened with the problems they got themselves into. I found a woman who seemed to be satisfied with me and I with her. We've been married for more than 40 years and are still together with 4 children and a dozen grandchildren. Life hasn't been perfect, but we're pretty content with what we have. She's allowed to have friends of either gender and so am I, no jealousy issues because we trust each other. I still have casual contact with former girlfriends and their spouses with no issues. That was then, this is now and we all made our decisions many years ago. We liked each other then, but found out that we weren't meant to be together, this is now and the same things that made us friends but incompatible then are still present. There is no reason to be angry or controlling about something that is out of our control now. Maybe I was lucky with the females in my life when I was young, but this article holds no fact or truth in my life.

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